After a long weekend of self-indulging in food, sleep and reading I woke up feeling grouchy on a Monday morning. The unmade cosy bed allured and called my soul more than the expensive gym as the receding weekend euphoria still hungover over my head. Even my daily intake of freshly brewed black coffee failed to uplift or invigorate me to kickstart the morning. The well-paying comfortable cushy job seemed like a far cry from wanting to spend the rest of the day in bed!
Putting my misery to an end and letting my mind take the call, I ended up getting ready for work. But while driving to the workplace, my resistance towards the Monday morning grew exponentially. Not only the car got stuck on all the red signals but also met with a mishap of punctured tire on the way! It seemed as if the whole universe conspired against me! But could have I been any more wrong?
In reality, neither the universe conspired not it had anything against me, the wheel of my misery started from my resistance for Monday which finally sabotaged my whole morning. If you have ever read, studied or heard about the Laws of Attraction, you would know that when you consciously fixate on something irrespective of wanting or not wanting it, you align your energy with those thoughts or emotion which makes your energy amplified and manifests it to happening it faster on a bigger scale. I wish I could remember this when I woke in the morning with an aversion to Monday.
Like my disastrous morning, I am sure that many of you also might have had faced this kind of resistance in your professional life too. Whether ending up collaborating in a project with a colleague you immensely dislike or when your internal critic chooses to raise its ugly head just before you hope to get a promotion! You get engulfed in the makings of your resistance. As a result, you get buried under a mountain of stress!
Elaborating more on this concept which we all professionals struggle at, The Art of Living corporate trainer, Ajey Vij, says, "The tendency of the mind to have likes, dislikes, acceptance or resistance is another factor of stress in the professional world. If you observe, the mind has the tendency to resist certain things which makes them persistence in our life. For example, for the next ten seconds, if I ask you to think about anything other than a monkey. The first thought your mind will fixate upon is a monkey. Even when you want the thought of the monkey to dissipate, it just does not disappear. So the point here is the need to train our mind so as not to let it go out of control.
Have you observed that on the days you get late for your work, you get incessantly stuck on all the red signals in the traffic? This incidence has less to with the traffic signal and more to do with your state of mind because when you are in a hurry, it looks like everything is trying to stop you and that's where comes the resistance creating a blockage for you. At your workplace, if you notice, when you dislike somebody, your chances of interacting with them becomes much higher and the stress, in turn, which you have build-up shoots through the roof.
According to Ajey, the best way to get past your quicksand of resistance is to become aware of your own biases and your resistance towards situations or people around you. When you are aware, it is easier it is for you to drop your bias and move on to accept situations and people as they are.
Getting rid of your biases and resistance lets you cut through the negativity and helps you to sow the seed of affirmation in your thought process. When you concentrate and walk towards your goals with affirmation and positivity, you raise your energy or vibrations automatically. As a result, you start attracting all the opportunities and positivity in work.
Meditation helps you to handle your struggle by making you steer yourself in the direction of mindfulness away from the valley of internal critic which loves to thrive on negativity. It enables with the strength to open your mind towards making the right decisions by accepting situations and people as they are. It helps you to inculcate a positive mind frame which makes you build a wall against stress.
External situations or people are there to affect or influence you in a million ways. But always remember, you are the captain of your ship who gets to decide where your thoughts, likes or dislikes, faith, belief, resistance will lead you and not the other way around.
Times may have changed but this saying of our elders still rings true till date, "when you think positive, it manifests into positive outcomes!"
Written By: Jaya Singh
Based on inputs from Ajey Vij, Corporate Trainer, The Art of Living
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